"You cannot legislate the poor into freedom by legislating the wealthy out of freedom. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is about the end of any nation.

You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it."
Dr. Adrian Rogers 1931-2005

Saturday, November 29, 2014

The best of the photos are often the outtakes!

The time of the annual photos is more about reigning in the normal behavior which is of goofiness and laughter. I used to stress about taking the perfect photo.  Thanks to digital cameras I enjoy the outtakes as much as the perfect photo.
 
Sons:
They can laugh at anything.  They can find humor is everything.
Many times I forget what I am doing as I get pulled in to the 
moment of goofiness.

This photo is what I call a before photo.
You can see with Second (second from left)  and that he has almost
lost it.

And here you go...

Now with the girls you get smirks and half smiles.  It's not that 
they did not want to smile, it's that the three men stood behind me.

When I turned around I saw First, Second, and Third doing their 
best to make the girls lose it.  If you look at Fourth you can see her in
the middle of a shrug.  Time has passed and they may be older BUT they 
continue to do the same things!  
When I am older and look back upon the years, I will remember these times
and know when they were happening I knew they were indeed, the best of times.

Friday, November 28, 2014

File this in the unbelievable files

Thanksgiving is the time I take the annual photos of the kids.  I am certain that this is a time of endurance for them, but they suffer through it because of one word~Mom.  Only mom's can get away with certain things.  For that I am happy!

As I was uploading the photos, I noticed something that was pretty unbelievable and knew I had to post an old photo to then share a photo I snapped yesterday.


This is Third from 2010 when he was with friends paintballing. 
Can you see the heart on his mask?

 Well look at this photo from yesterday.
I was playing around with retro colors and when I switched it to sepia
I noticed something on Third!

Can you see the heart shadow?

Crazy!
Now for the rest of the story:
Third has a birthmark.
Yep, a birthmark.
Can you guess what shape it is?

Of course!
It's a heart!

Thursday, November 27, 2014

Announcing Thanksgiving 2015 Guestlist...

Well...for sure there will be one extra seat at the table.  It will be a chair that seats a bit higher.
The guest will wear either something blue,

 
or something pink!!!

YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAY!

Happy Thanksgiving

Wishing all the farm visitors a Happy Thanksgiving!

May your day be filled with family, friends, and love!

 
May you eat lots of pumpkin pies 

First in Afghanistan -middle right, celebrating Thanksgiving 2010

May you take a moment and remember those that are far from home
during Thanksgiving when you consider things you that you are thankful for.

 

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Thankful

Thankful post 3

I am thankful to have been a stay home wife and mom.  This is something that I chose to do 26 years ago.   I have loved this role.  I am not writing this to debate those that see this as suppressive, or to suggest that those that must work or chose to work are horrible.  I am thankful that I have been able to be home all these years.  I am thankful that with Bill, we have been able to really embrace thrift, innovation, and creativity to afford for me to be one on the homefront.

I am thankful that 159,000+  and 114,000+ are workable mileage numbers in our vehicles.  When we buy a new car, I am thankful that 92,000 miles was like the shiniest, newest model on a car lot.  I am thankful that new to us is not a bad thing to love.

I am thankful that million dollar views don't always have to come with a million dollar price tag.


This is the view from my front porch.  Pretty awesome isn't it?


 I am thankful that using a pressure canner is not as scary as it originally sounded all those years ago
I love v-8 and this is my own veg juice

 I am thankful that I was able to homeschool my children.  Over the years while being their primary, middle school, and high school teacher I worried I was not doing enough.  Now that they are adults I am able to realize that my worries were for naught. 

I am thankful that pumpkins are very adaptable and thrive in the desert. 
pumpkin in the mesquite
the pumpkin is almost in the center of the image


Can you see the lovely green pumpkin growing in the mesquite bush?  This was about 5' up and by the time we harvested it, the pumpkin weighed about 30lbs.  I am thankful that we had goats at the time, and that I fed the goats slops.  I had a pumpkin in my food storage that had gone bad and tossed it to the goaties.  Well in July we began seeing bright vibrant plants growing in the mesquite and when we went out to see what they were, we discovered pumpkin plants all over the property.  With the heavy rains in June we had seeds spread about and by November we harvested almost 40 pumpkins!  This year we ended up with about ten and I did not plant any pumpkins~instead I toss a pumpkin out in March and allowed nature to work for me!

To anyone new to the blog...I am the biggest fan of pumpkin!! Seriously. I love pumpkin pie and instead of cake have pie for my annual birthday treat (in June).



 
Please feel free to share things you are thankful for!

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Thankful

Thankful post part 2.

I am thankful for my children.  Bill and I wanted  8 children.  We could only have 4.  The four pregnancies and deliveries were of the top hardships in our marriage.  I had First 6 weeks premature, Third 8 weeks premature, and Fourth 10 weeks premature.  My pregnancies included long hospital stays, flight for life, and finally I nearly died during delivery with Fourth.   I was sad I could not have any more children.  I honestly carried that a long time, and then a few years ago as the kids began to date I looked to the children and told Bill, "we will have 8 children, but some will join us because of the 4!" 

Psalm 127: 3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

Second and his wife.
 
 Thou therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus.  2 Timothy 2:1

Fourth
So Christ was once offered to bear the sins of many; and unto them that look for him shall he appear the second time without sin unto salvation. Hebrews 9:28

Third and his wife

As newborn babes, desire the sincere milk of the word, that ye may grow thereby.  1 Peter 2:2

First
And that from a child though hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.  2 Timothy 3:15

And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest  by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. Deuteronomy 6:7

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old he will not depart from it.  Proverbs 22:6

I am thankful for my children and pray that they walk in His ways always. 

Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. 2 Timothy 2:15

Prove all things; hold fast to that which is good.  2 Thessalonians 5:21

Be sober and diligent; because your adversary, the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: 1 Peter 5:8

Monday, November 24, 2014

Thankful

Thankful post part 1.

I am thankful for the Word of God.

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, 
and the Word was God.
John 1:1 
For ever, O Lord, thy word is settled in heaven.
Psalm 119:89 

I am thankful that my country still believes this. 
Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances. 
Bill of Rights
1st Amendment

I am thankful for this young couple.  

They learned how to become one.  It wasn't always easy.
But it has made all the difference that these two decided to become one.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall
 cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Genesis 2:24
 

Sunday, November 23, 2014

From the gross, cold, bounty, humor, blast from the past, love being a mom, New Mexican files.

Gross:
Another rodent bites the dust.  Points~Athena (doberman mix)
That is Bill's foot. The critter was as long as my foot...including its tail.


Cold:
Winter weather is starting off better.
This was our low the other day!!
Bounty:

This is how we fill the freezer on the farm.
Bill got an elk the first minutes of the first day he went hunting.
Humor:
I must remember to defrost the turkey.*

Blast from the past:
This is from the oldie files.
It is one of my favorite photos with the three boys walking together.
We had picked up First from the airport after his first duty assignment
at Fort Drum, NY. 

Love being a mom:
From the I love being a mom files.  I found this photo in a
series of photos like this depicting an egg crime scene with cop eggs, murdered eggs, and 
criminal eggs. I never saw it in real life so they must have done this while
I was gone and cleaned up before I came home. For me, it was ever so fun to see
how they had "created a story, acted it out, and documented it." 

New Mexican files:
From You know you are from New Mexico face*book page.
Pretty much the truth aside from about 5 days every winter.
Of course, in truth, I don't own any socks.
Even though we do have cold nights the days are lovely. 
ps. I don't own winter coat either.

*this was from 2009.  We haven't really had snow like that in a while. 

Friday, November 21, 2014

It's That Time of Year Again

Time for the annual photo shoot of the goof troop.  We will have the standard group photos as well as the couple photos for the married members of the goof troop.  As I plan this year's photo I have been thinking back to photos from the past and how hard it was to keep 4 littles happy while trying to snap a photo to send to family all over the country.  Now it is easy, because post once online and everyone sees the photo.  I do love technology.

I thought I would give a sneak peak of  our newest family member with her cutie pie Second.   I can't wait to get the group together and memorialize 2014!  These are the most wonderful of days! 
~Newest newlyweds~


*2014 photos to be posted next Thursday

Thursday, November 20, 2014

It truly is how you look at things

Yum, I love pie, don't you?
Fresh out the oven~and sliced, placed in a bowl,
and I add a touch of milk and sugar.
Super delicious!
My gang prefers to eat pie with ice cream.
Both ways are perfectly fine!

Life is this way.  To know what you dislike directs you to what you like.
To establish what you want in spite of being alone in your choice is also a directional path.
We need not be exactly like everyone else.  
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: 
marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
Psalm 139:14 (This is a Psalm by David and he is praising God)

We each are fearfully and wonderfully made.  Unique and designed specifically for a purpose.


If you believe you are fearfully and wonderfully made you have a foundation to live your life.  You have worth, purpose, and importance to those around you, yourself, and the Creator.  You will see those around you and appreciate that they are fearfully and wonderfully made as well, and your perspective reveals such.

When I posted the photo above, I thought to the moment I made the pie.  My family could not wait for it to come out of the oven as the aromas were ever so incredible.  I served the pie and everyone enjoyed it, exactly the way they wanted.  Now my family had one advantage over you, the reader of this blog.  They saw the zucchini peelings and knew I had made a mock apple pie with zucchini.  One year I devoted each day to created another recipe for squash and the pie creation was a delightful surprise.  They knew it was not an apple pie-yet anticipated what possibilities that a zucchini pie could offer.

Perspective is everything.  Your day will end with a few outcomes
1. You will have a wonderful day in spite of not having everything you need, deserve, or expect.
2. You will have a horrible day because you need, deserve, or expect something.
3. You will die (God forbid), but this is an option.
4.  You will have an incredible day taking each moment as a gift and appreciate that with the bad must come good and vise-versa. 

I have known a fair share of moaning, complaining people.  It is ever so difficult to be around people that can only see #2, no matter how wonderful their lives are.  I challenge my readers to live a day with #4 as your goal~it is truly a wonderful way to live.

Oh and in spite the pie not being a pumpkin pie (my super-dedooper favorite pie in all the world), I loved the zucchini pie and am thinking perhaps I better make one today with the remaining zucchini from my garden!

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

If you profess to be a Christian

you are one that is a believer in Jesus Christ as the Messiah foretold of the Old Testament as well as the Son of God. 

As a Christian you accept that Christ died on the Cross and rose again three days later.

As a Christian you believe you should live your life as Christ did:
  • 1 John 2:6 He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked.

Jesus Christ not only fulfilled Old Testament prophecies, but he used the Old Testament when being tempted by Satan.
  • But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. Matthew 4:4  Christ was quoting Deuteronomy 8:3 And he humbled thee, and suffered thee to hunger, and fed thee with manna, which thou knewest not, neither did thy fathers know; that he might make thee know that man doth not live by bread only, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of the LORD doth man live.
  • Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God. Matthew 4:7. Christ was quoting Deuteronomy 6:16 Ye shall not tempt the LORD your God, as ye tempted him in Massah.
  •  Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve.  Matthew 4:10 which Christ was quoting Deuteronomy 6:13,  Deuteronomy 10:20 and Joshua 24:14

There is nothing new in the New Testament.  Everything in the New Testament was foretold in the Old Testament or prophesied in it. 

Therefore if you are a Christian and believe in Jesus Christ, then you have to be careful and be like a Berean and test your leadership in your churches.

  • And the brethren immediately sent away Paul and Silas by night unto Berea: who coming thither went into the synagogue of the Jews.
  • These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so. Acts 17:10-11

The Bereans were noble but understood that those in leadership must be watched and checked with the Scriptures.  At this time the ONLY scriptures written were of the Old Testament, so everything that Paul said, or any of the disciples, as well as Jesus Christ was lined up against the Scriptures.  

Leaders today must be checked as well.  In some churches leadership is stating that they are unsure if Jesus Christ is the only way to the Father, the Bible is clear:
  • Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. John 14:6
 
Other church leaders say that God did not say what He said but instead allowed for evolution to occur.  Please read Genesis 1-11.  The creation of the world is detailed as is the creation of man.  Man is then told to be fruitful and multiply over and over in Genesis 1:22, 1:28, 8:17, 9:7, 35:11, 28:3, and 41:52.  

If one is waiting for a partner to evolve, it would be very difficult to obey this command, yet it was given in the very first chapter of the very first book just as the world was created. We are told to be fruitful and multiply.

People are normal.  We do the least amount expected practically in all we do.  This is the same when reading the Bible.  But one must remember that your salvation is yours and to be like the Berean and check your leadership as you have a Bible.  If your leadership is professing things that are not true...consider a discussion with them as to where in the Bible the truth is, and then if they do not change, leave that church. 

We live in times where churches professing to be Christian churches are mega wealthy.  The pastors are millionaires living in mansions.  Opulence is almost gaggy.  These churches leadership and the wealth of the pastors off the backs of the parishioners is not Biblical.  

  • Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.  Matthew 7:14

If you are not a Christian or you do not believe what I have written, that is certainly your choice, but when a church leader that has perhaps 1 billion followers states something other than what the Bible says, you MUST be very concerned as this is truly a war~ 
 
  • For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.  Ephesians 6:12

and if your leadership is stating something other than what the Bible states they aren't on the same side of the battle.



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Friday, November 14, 2014

Before

the Jew or the Christian, God created the day of rest.

And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made;  and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which God had made.  And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it:   because that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made.  Genesis 2: 2-3


Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. Exodus 20: 8
For in six days the LORD made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is,  and rested the seventh day: wherefore the LORD blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it.  Exodus 20:11

Thursday, November 13, 2014

From the Mixed Up Files of


Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler the Double Nickel Farm.


Brr.  
We used the woodstove all night last night.
Life with a woodstove is amazing because no matter how cold it
is outside, it is lovely and warm inside.
The headboard is not a headboard when you have cats.
This is a diving board.
The place to dive...well is me, when sleeping.
Not a good thing.
Solution?  Sleep with our heads at the end of the bed.
Make the bed up at the headboard in the morning.
Problem solved.  
What? Get rid of the cat?  Oh no, our cats are farmhands.
They are mousers level 400. 
Recently I heard a story about someone being corrected for coloring
pumpkins green.  See the green pumpkins in the gourd, squash collection?
We harvested everything yesterday because of the impending freeze.  

Everything on this table was from a volunteer plant!! I love when 
plants love the farm so much that they come back year after year!
Unfinished projects that will dry over the winter.

 
Some most likely will end up like this.

 

 Others like this, 
and perhaps bowls, what-nots and thingamajigs.

That is life on the Farm.
Mixed up, random, and yet quite fulfilling.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

How to Treat a Child

This is part of a continuing series~read How to Treat a Woman here, and How to Treat a Man here.

No matter how the world spins things, the next generation is by far our greatest gift to mankind.  We aspire to do great deeds, and some actually do so, and perhaps gain recognition, fame, and wealth.  The rest of us are most likely known in our little corner of the world.  That is nothing to feel bad about or think you have failed because the world doesn't bow at your feet.  What you do in your little corner has monumental impact on those around you.  The choice in how you behave is yours and yours alone.  Through the  next generation is how you can impact the world without gaining those accolades I listed above.  Nope, you will not gain money or fame through a child. BUT you will receive something far more valuable.  You will receive their love, their smiles, and the knowledge that a bit of you lives on through them.

On to How to Treat a Child.

1.  Love them.  Seriously.  Work at this every day.  Think often about them. Think about the moment you held the child first in your arms on days when they are testing the fences (Jurassic Park reference). 

2.  Remove all of your expectations for the child and instead give them the expectation of being the best that they can be.  If you were a football player or an artist or a doctor~this does not mean your child will be.  Allow them to become...think about this.  We are all in progressing of becoming.  Some of us are new to the path, others are midway, and others are nearing the end of their trail of becoming, but in different periods in our lives we become different things. (for example-someday I will become a grandmother)

3. Be consistent and have a schedule.  It is terrible never knowing what the day will bring and sets adults nerves on edge.  Imagine the children who may not understand what is going on, and then never giving them a constant to expect.  Feed them at the same times.  Put them to bed at the same time.  Be consistent and you will all be happier and more functional.

4.  Treat the child with respect.  Once again, I am going to say~seriously.  Do not dismiss the efforts made by a child in their drawings, the way they clean, or even in their speech.  If you mock them when they are small, they will become a person you cannot stand as an adult.  Children are learning.  They need to be taught by you through example. Then do not expect a standard that you have for something that you have been doing for 20 to 30 more years. Praise them when they do well. 

5.  Treat others around you with respect.  Your child mimics EVERYTHING you do.  If you are a foul mouthed rude person, your child will be too.  If you want to ensure your child is respectful of others you need to begin with you first.  

6. Remember your child is not tainted or scarred by horrific images and thoughts yet.  DO NOT taint your child.  As they age they will learn about evil events, horrible people, and things that we adults should not have to deal with.  STOP polluting their minds now.  Much of this comes from television and movies.  Innocence is something precious and should be guarded by those that are guardians~Parents!

7.  Do not think that a child must do more than you do in a week.  A child is learning how to become a functional member of society and to remind you most will be unknown functional members of society.  Do not fill their schedule with so much CRAP that you, the child, and the family setting is disrupted.  If you are running to and fro for a 6 year old to be in sports, music, clubs, and school...then it is time to reassess.  Let the child be 6.  Pockets should be loaded with things found outside or that they find some significance in, faces should have a milk or juice mustache,  and they should have crayons and books to fill their extra time at home.  If you have a child that has a gift, promote the gift...but be sure it is this instead of your dreams being placed on the child.

8. Read to your child.  For our family, the Bible first, then books, books, books.  If you cannot afford books, libraries are loaded down.  Thrift stores sell books for about a dime. Read good stories, heartfelt stories, uplifting stories, adventurous stories, and inspire the child to anticipate then next night and reading again.  For our home I read poetry during lunch time.  Oh and it was Shel Silverstein over and over.  They loved it.  Eric Carle has some fantastic books as well.  The Little House on the Prairie and the Great Brain series are incredible also.  I love what Bill says to the kids(well our grown up kiddos), he tells them all the time, good input in, good input out.  Why spoil their minds when they are so young? 

9.  Establish a chore chart.  Oh and no income, no allowance, no perks for this. Being part of a family is being part of a unit that works together for the good of the family.  This is a lesson in adulthood as well as in the work place many people have to work together or things go down hill fast.   In your chore chart have age appropriate chores and follow through.  Do not expect perfection. Expect obeying your rules with joy and doing the best that the child can do. 

10. PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN.  If you have children, put the phone down.  It is so crazy to go to stores and see parents texting while with their children.  Be with your children when you are with them.  Having established bedtimes gives you time, but the child needs your time when he or she is awake.  They are that important, they are that worth it.  Texting someone LOL is not in the realm of reality with a child.



That is my beginning list.  Here are some thoughts with my goof troop that made all the difference.

* When our oldest was about 6, he was reading everything and anything.  He would read to the younger three.  One time we were at a park and someone had in graffiti written the f-word.  My oldest read the plaque on the military statue as well as the f-word.  I blinked a bit and looked at him, but he had no idea what he read, so I continued to walk and never~NEVER~said anything to him.  If you spotlight the negative~the child will know it, and then they will repeat it over and over again.   We had a kind word standard in our home.  I did not even allow the word hate when they were small.

*In our home we taught the children to always knock before entering someone's room.  The boys shared a room and then Fourth had her room, but the boys room was the hang out room. Even if Fourth ran to her room to get another toy, when she returned she would knock. 

*At the dinner table, we would say, "please pass the____,"  or "thank you." 

* When Bill came home from work, we all stopped what we were doing and greeted him. 

*We did have rules about the front seat.  The oldest that was going on the trip was allowed to have the front seat if only one parent was going, BUT we do have two that for two months of the year are the same age.  We allowed that window to be the break for the younger of the two to have the front seat~if he called it.

* We played with our children.  Whether soccer, basketball, or board games we set an established time each week and played as a family together.  This continued until about two years ago when the middle two both moved out and took full time jobs.  Now we play a game such as Apples to Apples or the like with the group when we all get together. It is as fun now as it was when they were small.  Snacks are provided, and laughter occurs naturally.

* Bill and I loved the kids.  We snuggled them, we hugged them, we let them know that they were and still are the most important things in our lives.  The other day, First needed something from me.  It required a trip to town and only was for about ten minutes but I went.  He is my son.  My legacy is through them as much as my mom's is through me.  I take that very serious.  My kids know I am an emotional nutcase when I see them succeed.  My craft room has several areas of things the kids made...I love them, and I do have blinders on with a good dose of reality.

* Oh a biggie- we taught the kids competition.  This is a serious one.  The world is a competition whether it is for the next promotion or the parking spot near your workplace.  Learning how to win is easy, but learning how to compete is more important.  We had yo-yo contests, hulu hoop contest, grasshopper catching contest, pogo stick contest, races, dart throwing, ball tossing, and such.  Learning how to dust off and congratulate the winner is as important as learning that if there is a next time you can try harder.

The Goof Troop 1996
L-R Second First Third
Fourth

The Goof Troop  November 2013*
L-R First Third Fourth Second
*Time for the annual photo!!
How to treat a child or a man or woman is a reflection upon yourself.  I will address a comment I received in How to Treat a Man in an upcoming post. 

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

To our Veterans

Thank you. 

I love this country. When I see the flag flapping in the wind I still get emotional. Each day that the flag continues to fly over my home I am reminded of those who have made that possible.

                      To all the veterans of the United States Armed Forces~ thank you.

To my brother and brother-in-law,
my nephew,
to my oldest,
and my husband
I am very thankful for you service.

I know the sacrifices you have made to stand when others can't or don't.

Thursday, November 6, 2014

How to Treat a Man

Now this is directed to wives and my experience with men is and has been all of my life. I have three brothers that showed me from birth how men are (in their primitive state), my husband, and then raising three sons, all which have helped me formulate this post. 

I hope you have a pad and pen.
1. Love them unconditionally.
2. Do not emasculate them.
3. Listen to them.
4. Feed them.

That's it.

Yep. Men are simply amazing. It's hard to know that if you only watched television, movies, or listened to the feminist speak about them. Unlike women, men are far easier to define and list what is expected. For the past 50 years women have been told that men aren't needed, or if they are they are
losers.

Since I provided several images with my How to Treat a Woman post, I  thought I would share some images for this post as well.

How to Treat a Man
  
 Love him.  He overcomes diversity, distress, and danger
all for you and never complains.

Laugh with him.
So he has big hands to your small hands~
make him his very own driedel!

Appreciate that he says over and over, that he loves
anything in a burrito and indulge him.

Feed him:
It isn't that hard.  By the way, burritos are pretty delish!

Feed him some more:
Breakfast is one of the three most important meals of the day.

Feed him more still!
By the way, it is okay to cook a diverse style of food.
He will look at you and love it...even if it is not so good.
Seriously.

Love him.  He is willing to walk back across
dangerous heights to ensure you safety.
 

  
Love him. Real men
don't care if their shed is painted in flowers.

Play with him.  Challenge him. He knows that you
are as competitive as him...and he smiles while he plays.

Thank him.  When the world seems to be on top of each
other, a million dollar view, with your very own county
(not maintained) road...is an incredible gift. 

Cherish him.  He doesn't see the dust. Trust me.
The note made him smile and that was that.

Thank him.  If your home is not like a television home, 
and you paint your floors while you wait to do something else,
be grateful.  

I do not know all men...but I do know my man.  He is a good man.  He is the most important man in the world.  Seriously. All women should try this.  If you treat your man like he is the most important man in the world, you will be amazed at how he treats you, others around him, and himself. My man is the hero that crosses the threshold each morning and each evening.  My man is the person that for many years of his life put a weapon on his belt to ensure the kids and I were cared for.  My man has worked up to three jobs at a time to protect and preserve our family. It is quite simply so easy to treat him the way I do, as I believe he is the most important man in the world.  

I know to strengthen a marriage one could do well to work on a few of the things I have shared, catered to the individual needs of your husband or wife.