"You cannot legislate the poor into freedom by legislating the wealthy out of freedom. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is about the end of any nation.

You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it."
Dr. Adrian Rogers 1931-2005
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Monday, January 27, 2014

I'd Look Down on Me Too

Amy Glass wrote an article titled I Look Down on Young Women with Husbands and Kids and I'm Not Sorry.   After reading her article, then reading a few more of her articles I have decided that if I were her, I would look down on me too.

In the world I have accomplished nothing.   I have not written any great works of literature.  I have never played a professional sport.  I have not sat in on any business meetings.   I doubt anyone even really knows me beyond my teeny tiny corner of the world.  I do not own any designer labels, have not traveled alone pretty much anywhere, and have not earned more than $40,000.00 in my entire life (and to be honest I believe that this number is a bit high).

I have no retirement.

My maiden name doesn't even sound like my name anymore.

I have accepted average in my life.  I married young, have no prenuptial agreement, and dutifully had four children, to which one is named after my husband and another after my father-in-law.  I cook practically every meal eaten in the home, and wash the same dishes day in and day out.

I guess for a moment I tried to see my life through her eyes.  I don't think I ever can.

You see, if for a moment, I did accomplish something that gave me world renown, that would be wonderful, for say, you know, my fifteen minutes of fame.  Realistically that must make sense.  The majority of us are average.  Aside from reality television most average folks won't make it beyond their small ponds.  And in death, the fame dissolves.

For me, I have more than world fame.   Although Ms. Glass does a  nice job of stereotyping homemakers, she misses the mark.   I have spent 25 years discovering me.  I liked me when I met my Bill, and from there I launched out and came to become more as the years passed.  I may not have backpacked in Asia, but I have lived in Germany, traveled in Europe, Mexico, as well as a good portion of the United States.  I may never have received a promotion, but I have met with governors, state legislatures, congressmen,  and even a cabinet secretary for George W. Bush.   As to landing a dream job, I cannot imagine having a job that grows with you, aside from the job I had.  While in my role as mother, I was able to become quite proficient in so many differing occupations that I doubt outside the home, I would have been able to pick just one for 'fulfillment.'

In my job, I am able to do what I want, when I want.  Because my job description was up to me to write, I wrote it in a way that benefited me.  My office is my home.  I have the corner office on the top floor of any business as my views from my workplace are stellar.  My rise to the top did come with long hours, and some nitty gritty times, as pretty much all jobs do, and if one wants to be the best at what they do, this is what is expected.  After the initial few 80 plus hour weeks for the first few years, the work schedule became easier and less was required of me in a sense.  More was required at the same time, as providing an environment where living, breathing, human beings develop is easy, but providing one that stimulates, educates, and illuminates is challenging.

I have never missed a holiday~ever.   Work never took me away from family.  My job never expected less of me, and in truth, the best was expected pretty much every day.

No one had to call me to pick up a sick child.  No one had to come to my home to clean, cook, or care for anyone in the family, so I was never burdened with ensuring employees were legal to work.

My job was and still is filled with moments that rattle my brain!  Seriously.  Watching a person develop to the point where they can speak is profound.

I do have serious expectations in my job.  I expect respect and I give it.

My job will not be one where many know me.  But my job does not end with my retirement either.  In my job, I see the impact beyond my capacity, and although I may never be in value to say a surgeon, four people will carry on where I left off.

For Amy Glass, I am sorry, even though she is not.   I am sorry that her worth as a woman is only defined by not having a family to crush her.  I am sorry because she has no idea that the children and husband actually can allow her to achieve her potential.  You see, the children grow up.  Really.  Funny how that is missed.  If you have your children when you are young, then in your mid 40s you are now allowed to watch, advise, and participate from a lesser role, and see your efforts of parenting come to fruition.  The proof is in the children.  I may not have awards, recognition, or even a massive network, but what I have is the legacy of being, all because I stayed home when it mattered the most.

My life will continue on beyond the time of a career, because I chose something that is so average that it is almost too hard to do.

I wish women could realize that a womb is not a curse.  I wish that women could see that nurturing another human being does not make one less worthy, or less valuable.  Back packing across Asia has nothing on granting the next generation the foundation to continue on.  My accomplishments are achieving accomplishments of their own and frankly, without me, none would be possible.

As to my title, I must conclude, that I am thankful that I am not Amy Glass, as I do not look down on young mothers that stay home with their children.