The world is an incredible place! We see so many innovation's that some days that I cannot imagine a generation looking back at us and seeing us as a society without. We have so much in the ways of medicine, of living, of entertainment, of well, everything.
I do see future generations looking back and seeing something we have done, as the direct link to the failure they are experiencing. You see in our nation we have drawn a line in the sand and refuse to step backwards (in our rational). Have you figured out what failure we have done to our descendants?
We have completely and wholeheartedly destroyed the family unit, all under the guise of money, learning, benefits, and equality. Wait I must add one more thing-this was all our choice! That has been the catchphrase that first pulled in women in the seventies to have choice over their bodies, and now it is neatly wrapped up as choice over their minds. Woman is all powerful, all supreme and therefore has fled that terrible place to be- home, in such large numbers that many people blink when I say that I have stayed home for all of my marriage. What? What do you want to do when the children move out? Don't you wish you were working?
Mind you among those who have voluntarily fled home are those that have had no choice, and if they did, most likely they would have stayed home with their children. I can think of several cases where the dad in a home was a deadbeat (or abuser) or died, and mom had to work. These homes should be a minority, as the design of a woman is to mother. Now don't get defensive, just think about biology.
As a stay home wife and mother I have heard every line in the book about why women should work, why women work, and why I am wrong. I would like to share some reasons why women should not work and offer this perspective that is not shared by American society, education, or even in the majority of our churches anymore. That last one surprised me the most, and inspired this post, as I received an email on how a church can make money- and the number one way, was to open a daycare/preschool as people in the church like everyone else, needs quality providers. By the way in my community the churches daycare/preschool programs have waiting lists, so this must be pretty accurate.
World War II began this trend of women leaving the home. The children of this generation saw moms out of the home and an idea stuck. These children were our Baby Boomers and never before were a generation more spoiled. The Baby Boomers then took the notion of a woman working a step further, seeing that she was not equal to man in society(pay) and the N.O.W. and women libbers groups formed. Bra's were burned, and women studies programs began in universities nationwide. Things that women did before, now in these classes were flipped- as if staying home was wrong, having children was oldschool, and caring for the home, was beneath a real woman.
The Baby Boomers were not the most spoiled generation ever though, as they spoiled my generation beyond belief. We had everything, and little girls no longer were given dolls but told that they could bring home the bacon (earn the money) and fry it up in a pan (meaning that they could cook too) leaving no place for a man. We were raised that men should change diapers and women should change the oil. Yet my generation was not the most spoiled generation, as when one only knows one thing that is what they do- my generation spoiled the next generation(now teens and in their twenties) worse than one could imagine. These children need a room to play in, a room to sleep in, a room for the computer, a room for the television, a chauffeur to take them to all their activities, cell phones, radios, mp3 players, scooters bicycles, their own cars, and a prom that cost more than a wedding in the 1980's. Oh and the reason so much more gets dumped onto the pile of material items for the children? Guilt. Plain old guilt, as our children need so much. Why? Because mom and dad work and guilt makes us compensate with material items. Or guilt, because mom and dad are divorced, and the kids are shuffled between two homes and parents fill them up with stuff.
In all that we have given these spoiled generations we lack giving them skills to carry them forward. They no longer have the foundations in their lives. We have had to lower test scores so much that the best scores of today are far lower than the worst scores of the sixties. These spoiled children have no idea of waiting for a new home, new furnishings, or the concept that marriage is hard work- therefore the rise in bankruptcies, credit debt, and divorce are through the roof. If husband won't let me do what I want- I will leave him. It is easier to get a divorce than adopt a dog from the humane society.
So where do we go from here? Well let me share some thoughts from scripture. In Proverbs 7:11 we read of a prostitute. Here is the description: She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house (emphasis mine). Biblically a woman who is not in her house (i.e. working outside the home) is viewed different than how the world sees a woman. A woman is not lesser because she is not in the work force. She is more, in fact in Proverbs 31:10-31 shares a wonderful way a woman is to be at home. Please read about a Proverbs 31 woman. The woman in this scripture works hard and cares for her home- from home.
When did we as a society transform that we give another our children to raise (during formative times) and believe that this is the best method? Who could convince a mother to leave home to bring home money so that the home would be pretty like Martha Stewart would decorate it? Who could convince a woman that the nurturing that she alone can provide is not that important that she need not be there? Who could convince a woman that things that the world has are now needs instead of wants? Who? Satan.
God designed the family unit first and foremost. God did not make woman out of Adam's foot, lest he walk over her, nor did he make woman from Adam's head, lest she hover above him, no God made woman from Adam's rib so that woman and man could be side by side, and she could nestle beside man. A woman is to be a helpmeet to man (Genesis 2:18) her desire is to be of her husband (Genesis 3:16).
Future generations will look upon our generation and our society and be horrified just as we are when we read of what Hitler did to the Jews. They will see our uncaring for our young as barbaric. You had a child and gave it to others to raise 9 hours a day, five days a week? They will look upon the numbers now over 50 million of children that never took a breath and will be mortified at the thought of who did not make it? Future generations will look upon this time in history and grieve.
Or maybe not, as the successful destruction of the family, the role of both the mother and the father has been so cleverly destroyed that most of the future generations may never know the truth. They may never know that God had a plan. So Christians the time is now. The time is to stop living in the world, stop loving the world as 1 John 2: 15 tells us- Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the father is not in him.