Bill had his accident.
Instead of writing about the accident, I thought I would write about how life has been since January 1, 2005.
We moved. It was a very hard thing to do, but we needed to move for opportunity as we lived in a very remote small community where there were few and far between jobs. We knew at some point Bill would begin a new career path and we wanted to be in a place where that was possible.
We went through tremendous financial struggles. We bought a very run down place in the middle of a gazillion mesquite thorny bushes and began to scratch out a future. I would buy the waste food box from the grocery. At first I would say it was for the animals, but at times, I would salvage foods that were still okay for stews etc, and use them for us. We worked on a small ranch to earn animals at the end of our job mucking out pens. It was crappy...just having a bit of fun now~sorry it is helpful to laugh when life is hard. I thrifted for everything, whether it was clothes, furniture, or everything else. I learned about the desert and what was edible and what was not. I learned water preservation, food preservation, and to be honest~preservation of us.
We sought out meaning. We found Truth. We found the Creator and what life was truly to be about. We earnestly began studying His word as if life depended up it.
We raised pre-teens and teens to adulthood. Anyone that has teens or has raised teens, understands that this too is a tremendous experience that one must definitely find humor in. Through everything, we homeschooled. One served in the military and was sent to Afghanistan, and then became a law enforcement officer. One chose the other side of law enforcement and is working in court system. One was a volunteer fireman from the age of 17 then became a fireman. One began working in the ER and has discovered a career. All live within 15 miles of Bill and I. Two are married and these two sons have their own sons now. One has a special love and the baby, well she is figuring out exactly who she is.
We raised a zoo of animals. We learned everything we could about doing this low-cost, no-cost. We have had over 100 critters at one time on the farm. Now the critter population is down to 9. We are changing gears a bit and thinking of getting a few horses. Life does change over time. I am requesting miniature ponies out of fairness for me they will be ponies and average for my height! Bill has always wanted a horse and so this is the year.
We are empty nesters. What a funny term. I will tell you what this really should be called~date night every nighters. Yep. It is dating, romance, sweetness, and silly goofiness all over again. What was seen as a negative from many we knew early on, has actually turned out to be pretty neat now. We had our first baby just before our first anniversary so life has always been about family and not just the two of us. Now I understand. It is about us now. I love each step of the journey we have been on, and especially this new phase we are in.
We have come to realize that we can make and do anything. If we did not have money for something we pondered, researched, and learned how to make it, or make do. This has brought out my creative edge and I am and have been busy more for relaxation creating than the beginning which was for necessity. The woodworking skills that transformed our windows is nothing less than impressive...all because we could not run down to buy or have another put in prefab frames. Pioneer life isn't over if one stops and reflects upon how it can be made instead of looking for a ready made solution. It allows for uniqueness in a time where being different is not a good thing. For us...being different is awesome!
My mom died.
It's strange because I was going through thinking about how far we have come because we chose not to be defeated when times got tough. We chose to not give in when the world turned upside down, then I paused, and wrote those three words...my mom died. That was a hard year. My son was in Afghanistan and my mom was dying. I was torn and traveled across the country in the blizzard of 2011 and spent the last several weeks with my mother before she died. My son arrived home from Afghanistan two days later and I drove from Indiana to NY to see him. It was ever so emotional. I went from grief to joy and didn't really allow myself to grieve for a long while later. It was and has been a strange period of time in my life. I have always known that loved ones die as my dad died before I was born. I never thought that life was easy or that hardships don't happen because of my father being killed in Vietnam, but I was not ready for mom to die. I confess I wish she was here to see my grandbabies. I wish she was here to met the daughters-in-law, and I really wish she was able to get to know my children as adults, as I know she would love seeing who they have become.
With that I will close my mini review of the past 11 years. It is not all inclusive and certainly leaves out even incredibly important things. It is only a post looking back to allow for a continued forward pressing motion.
"You cannot legislate the poor into freedom by legislating the wealthy out of freedom. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is about the end of any nation.
Dr. Adrian Rogers 1931-2005
You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it."
You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it."