"You cannot legislate the poor into freedom by legislating the wealthy out of freedom. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is about the end of any nation.

You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it."
Dr. Adrian Rogers 1931-2005

Thursday, April 9, 2009

42 Years Ago Today

Forty two years ago today my dad was killed in Vietnam. I cannot ever forget this day, even though I never knew him, as he was killed 2 months before I was born.

I am almost 14 years older than he was when he was killed.

He left behind a wife of almost 8 years, five children and one soon to be born.

Dad's firstborn son's firstborn son is 28 this year, the very age dad was when he was killed(dad's namesake continued the legacy and passed dads name on one more generation).

My siblings and I combined have 15 children and so far one brother is a grandfather of 3...so dad missed his six children and 18 grand and great grandchildren.

Next year my parents should be celebrating their 50th anniversary.

But they are not.

My husband served this nation and I supported him even though I understood. Bill understood and understands what is required.

My own son now wears the uniform. He understood what price is sometimes expected, personally. Yet he understands what America is and what is required.

My brother served this nation. He understood and understands.

In times that we live in where our own president seems not to understand, we countrymen understand. Don't we?


laurie said...

yes Jennifer, many of us do understand. Thank you for you and your family's service. Blessings to you and yours. Freedom is costly. I fear the time to refresh that liberty is drawing near.

Mrs. Rabe said...

We understand, here in our family!

I am sorry for your loss - your family has sacrificed much for us. We are thankful.

Humble wife said...

Laurie- thank you, and I agree.

Mrs. Rabe- thank you very much.

Sand Flat Farm said...

Thank you very much for your sacrifices. Your son looks alot like his grandfather...honorable, brave, true...

jAne said...

Totally, unconditionally and without question, our family understands. We have a long military history in our families. Each war and in peace time. Precious country that we hold dear but all too often so many take for granted.


Cheryl said...

Thanks to your husband, son and brother for their service. And thanks to you Dad and family for their sacrifice.

Humble wife said...

Sand Flat Farm- thanks I agree about the looks too:)

Jane- thanks to your family too. Many times we get complacent because all seems calm. We must never forget that the calm has been paved by the blood of many.

Cheryl- thank you for your comment. I am so thankful even in my missing out, because I like all of you understand that sacrifices are sadly necessary.

Anonymous said...

I am sorry for your loss, and so thankful that your family is willing to serve our country and fight for freedom. I pray that God will bless your family even more than He has.
You are a wonderful example of serving God, also, and I thank you for that.

Humble wife said...

DRK-thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate the comment.

Kymber said...

Sweet and dear friend...I UNDERSTAND!

Your Dad is sooo proud of you, your husband, your beautiful sons and your baby girl (although firstborn does seem to resemble him greatly?)

Your Dad paid the ultimate sacrifice...for that - I say thank you! I say thank you Jennifer's Dad and I know that he hears me!
but I am sure that when you do get to meet him (finally) - he is gonna cry and laugh and hug you in the tightest embrace and you are gonna cry and laugh and hug him back even harder...and everything will be OK then...i really believe that Jennifer!

wow! you amaze me so much girl! you freakin amaze me!

Humble wife said...

Kymber- thank you and I know you too understand. My life is like many before me, one that is of doing what needs to be done. Nothing amazing about that,but thank you for saying so!

Glenn Bartley said...

Your dad must have been a good man to have been your dad even if he never knew you or you him. I judge that based upon how you turned out; but of course your mom had a lot to do with that too.

I think about your son now and then and wonder where he is and how he is doing. If I remember right, last I saw, he was in upstate NY. Then again I have not had mich time to follow blogs while out here in Tucson. Is he still in NY? I hope is is doing well and is safe from harm.

All the best,

Humble wife said...

Glenn- thanks, and of course you are right, my mother was the key.

My oldest is in MD until May then he will be in Upstate NY...

I hope you get to enjoy your trip/work...and see more snakes(perhaps all the ones that live in NM could slither over your way!!)

Simply Heart And Home said...


Patriots at heart understand and I thank you and your dear family for guarding the truths and foundation this country began with. Your father would be very proud.


Pat said...

We UNDERSTAND!! And we pray for and support our brave soldiers!

Sad to say, Mr. President does not understand that freedom is NOT free!! And, it takes bravery and commitment to protect that freedom!!

Meadowlark said...

Amazing post. It brought chills.

Husband and I are both former Marines and we were blessed to never serve during war time.

We send honor and respect for your family's sacrifice.

Semper Fi,

~~Deby said...

I sure do understand..as a Air Force wife for over 20 years...and two sons that have served and still do....and living around many bases...and you are right our new prezzz does not *get it*...shame on his behaviour whilst overseas...he was an embarrassment....

Humble wife said...

Gina- thank you so much, I am thankful for your comments!

Pat- It sure seems that the president does not get it, based on his behavior. Thank you so much.

Meadowlark- thankyou so much too! I appreciate the comments.

Deby- yes you do get it too! Thanks to you and yours too.

jAne said...

This comment of yours hit me hard:

**We must never forget that the calm has been paved by the blood of many.**

So true. So so so true. Thank you.



Humble wife said...

Jane- yes it is true. Sometimes I still am emotional because I don't have dad..but I never forget the realities that do exist.

On A Hill Homestead said...

I understand and respect ones conviction to obey what the Lord has called them to do. Some of our brave soliders DO get it, and worship the Lord in Spirit and Truth. The Lord has many of His children on different paths, and guiding them to fulfill His purpose. A man of God may be called to be a solider, carpenter, or farmer. It's all to glorify the Lord.
Thanks for sharing.
Peace and Grace to you and yours.
Ephesians 4:3-7

Jungle Mom said...

jen, Some of my comments do not seem to post.

Humble wife said...

OAHH- Thankyou for your wise comment.

Rita- I left you a comment on your blog...not to be published. Hope this helps

FJ said...

62 years ago, my uncle Hank died storming the beaches at Iwo Jima. Three months later, my dad graduated from high school in Ohio and joined up. He was part of US Occupation Forces, Japan under Macarthur. In 1970, he retired a Sr. Master Sgt., USAF. Two of his sons, my older brother and I, did 10 year stints in the USNR. My older brother spent some of his time in Vietnam, but both of us spent some time in the Far East.

I wish America had as consistent a foreign policy with regards to the rest of the world as it has had towards Japan. But it seems that not all presidents understand just how important that is. Especially to those of us whose loved ones made the ultimate sacrifice for their country and the liberty of all mankind.

Humble wife said...

FJ-I am sorry for your loss, and thank you for your family's service. Yes we should have a consistent policy but that is sadly not the case.
Thank you for your comment.

erniesjourney said...

I am saddened by your loss of never knowing your dad - never getting a hug or a tickle from your dad and never seeing the delight on his face as he watched you grow from a baby, to a little girl, to a woman and then to a wife and mother. It breaks my heart for you Jen. It is with deep regrets that many good soldiers have died for our freedoms and for what this country is supposed to stand for and for what it will again. Bless you and Godspeed.

Humble wife said...

Erniesjourney- yep it has broken my heart all my life. But I know why and for that I am ok. Thank you.